Episode 260: Why Your Healing Starts With a Pause
With Jeff and Terra Mattson and Featured Guest Debra Fileta
In this episode, we sit down with licensed counselor, author, and speaker Debra Fileta to explore what it truly means to heal from the inside out. Together, we unpack why our attempts at change often fail and how pausing, gaining insight, and facing our past can lead to lasting transformation. We talk about the deeper roots beneath our habits, how trauma resurfaces when life finally feels safe, and why triggers might actually be God’s invitation to heal. Join us as we offer a hope-filled, practical, and deeply faith-rooted conversation that will equip you to reset your life from the inside out.
Key Takeaways
Lasting change begins beneath the surface—true transformation requires addressing thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, not just behaviors.
Pausing is powerful—silence and stillness create space to hear from God and gain deeper insight.
Triggers are not setbacks—they’re signs of where healing is still needed, and God’s invitation to go deeper.
Childhood wounds still shape adult behavior—healing comes when we invite Jesus into those early places of pain.
Insight leads to alignment—when your thoughts, feelings, and actions align with God’s truth, deep healing follows.
Spiritual maturity includes emotional maturity—leaders can’t afford to ignore their inner world.
Shame stalls healing, but gratitude invites it—reframing struggles with grace opens the door to growth.
Website: www.debrafileta.com
Instagram: @debrafileta
Facebook: facebook.com/TrueLoveDates
Twitter/X: @DebraFileta
YouTube: Debra Fileta YouTube Channel
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